What Is My Head All About

"Okay, guy, so why do you feel like you want/need/deserve to settle down with a “pure” woman? I’m..."

Fri, 10 May 2013 23:01:32 -0400

“Okay, guy, so why do you feel like you want/need/deserve to settle down with a “pure” woman? I’m genuinely listening. “Oh, it’s because sluts are gross.” Too vague. Do better. “Well, their vaginas are real stretched out and big.” No. “Ummmmm, they probably have a bunch of diseases?” Easy fix! Setting aside the fact that plenty of women contract STIs from monogamous partners or during “safe sex,” it sounds like your real problem here is with illness, not sex. So I assume you’d be fine dating a promiscuous woman who practiced safe sex and happened to be STI-free? “No, because I want a girl who’s traditional and family-oriented.” Having sex doesn’t mean you don’t want to have a family. It just means that you want to have sex. “Yeah, but a slut is more likely to cheat on me.” Really? Then why do couples in the Bible Belt have such a high divorce rate? “The devil, I guess?” NOPE. “I just can’t stand the thought of her getting fucked by all those other guys.” So you’re about to have sex with a woman you’re attracted to, you really want to have sex with her, but all you can think about is her getting pounded by tons and tons of dicks? That sounds like an entirely different issue. “No! I just mean that I struggle with the same powerlessness and insecurity that all human beings do, so as a coping mechanism I take advantage of our culture’s patriarchal power structure and exorcize my feelings of worthlessness by perpetuating shame-based proprietary attitudes over women’s bodies. Basically I’m obsessed with controlling women’s lives because I can’t control my own.” Oh, honey. I know.”

- Female ‘Purity’ Is Bullshit

Hitting the bullshit nail right on its head.

Feminists don’t hate men, we hate the bullshit power structure that exists that allows men to take advantage of women rather than dealing with their emotions.

(via teacheremmalee)

grimybear: behind every successful man is hundreds of years of privilege

Wed, 01 May 2013 23:40:55 -0400

grimybear:

behind every successful man is hundreds of years of privilege

queerability: Gender Be a trans* ally & help fight...

Sat, 20 Apr 2013 17:50:48 -0400

queerability:

Gender

Be a trans* ally & help fight transphobia & cissexism

1. Use the term ‘cisgender’ when referring to non-trans* individuals, rather than transphobic words like “normal,” which imply that trans* individuals are abnormal, weird, ill, or broken.

2. Do not use transphobic slurs, such as “tra-ny” or “shemale.” These words are intended to insult and harm trans* individuals.

3. Always use the name any individual gives you. Do not ask someone what their “real” name is. (Their desired name is their real name.)

4. Always use the desired pronouns of an individual. If you are unsure which pronoun to use, politely and privately ask the individual what their preferred pronouns are.

5. Do not claim someone’s gender identity as false, nonexistent, immoral, or a result of an illness or trauma.

6. Do not ask questions regarding someone’s anatomy, or question if they have transitioned or will be transitioning in the future.

7. Do not ask to see the photographs of a person before they transitioned. Likewise, do not ask invasive, personal questions of a person regarding their life before they transitioned.

8. Never out a trans* individual to others. Likewise, do not ask others if “so-and-so is transgender.”

9. Do not assume an individual’s sexual orientation due to their trans* identity.

From asexual-not-a-sexual.tumblr.com

adthehero: The news is so confused right now. They don’t know whether to humanize them as misled...

Fri, 19 Apr 2013 19:39:08 -0400

adthehero:

The news is so confused right now. They don’t know whether to humanize them as misled white boys or treat them like a middle-eastern terrorist.

redupnyc: (via New York Civil Liberties Union (NYCLU) -...

Fri, 19 Apr 2013 00:20:55 -0400

redupnyc:

(via New York Civil Liberties Union (NYCLU) - American Civil Liberties Union of New York State)

There are also gender dimensions to stop and frisk that are very real but documented by groups that are much smaller and less funded than NYCLU. See Transgressive Policing: Police Abuse of LGBTQ Communities of Color in Jackson Heights, by Make the Road NY, October 2012 (link is to 33 page PDF).

Trans women of color and people of color who are gender non-conforming are at high risk for stop and frisk, and often also get any condoms they are carrying confiscated and destroyed.

Pro-tip: The vast majority of the women in the world are women of color, so if your feminism is not anti-racist, it's oppressive towards MOST of the world's women.

Wed, 17 Apr 2013 19:11:14 -0400

Pro-tip: The vast majority of the women in the world are women of color, so if your feminism is not anti-racist, it's oppressive towards MOST of the world's women.:

eshusplayground:

Bringing this one back because it’s relevant.

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Tue, 16 Apr 2013 21:48:46 -0400

[Petition] Designate the Wounded Knee Massacre Site as a National Monument.

Sun, 14 Apr 2013 23:27:47 -0400

[Petition] Designate the Wounded Knee Massacre Site as a National Monument.:

seriouslyamerica:

gehayi:

this-is-not-native:

petticoatruler:

To quote Chief Joseph Brings Plenty in the New York Times:

“The massacre site has great meaning not just for the Lakota but for all First Nations — and every American. Wounded Knee should remain a sacred site where the voices of the Ghost Dancers, who more than a century ago danced for the return of our old way of life, still echo among the pines, where the spirits of our elders still walk the hills, and where “takini” still has meaning: the survival of our collective memory.”

Sign this. Sign it and pass it along.

This is Native

Signed and reblogged.

Why does this have more notes than signatures?

dee-lirious: Sonya Renee: “What Women Deserve” (by...

Sun, 14 Apr 2013 22:53:56 -0400

dee-lirious:

Sonya Renee: “What Women Deserve” (by bjgomez)

culturally-diversified biracial girl, with
a small diamond nose ring and a pretty smile
poses besides the words
“Women Deserve Better”.

and I almost let her non-threatening grin
begin to infiltrate my psyche,
until I read the unlikely small print
at the bottom of the ad:
Sponsored by the US Secretariat for Pro-Life Activities
and the Knights of Columbus

on a bus,
in a city,
with a population of 563,000;
four teenage mothers on the bus with me,
one Latina woman with three children under 3,
and no signs of a daddy.

one sixteen year old black girl,
standing in 22-degree weather
with only a sweater,
a book bag,
and a bassinette,
with an infant that ain’t even four weeks yet.
tell me that
yes
women do deserve better.

women deserve better
than public transportation rhetoric
from the same people who
won’t give that teenage mother
a ride to the next transit.
won’t let you talk to their kids about safer sex.
have never had to listen as the door slams
behind the man who adamantly says,
“that shit” ain’t his!
leaving her to wonder how she’ll raise this kid.

women deserve better
than the 300 dollars TANF and AFC
will provide that family of three,
or the 6-dollar an hour job at KFC
with no benefits for her new baby,
or the college degree she may never see
because you can’t have infants at the university

women deserve better
than lip service paid for by politicians
who have no alternatives to abortion;
though I am sure,
right this moment,
one of their seventeen year old daughters is sitting in a clinic lobby,
sobbing quietly and anonymously,
praying parents don’t find out.
or will be waiting for mom to pick her up because research shows
that out-of-wedlock childbirth doesn’t look good on political polls, and
Sarah ain’t having that.

women deserve better
than backwards governmental policies
that don’t want to pay
for welfare for kids,
or health care for kids,
or child care for kids.
don’t want to pay living wages to working mothers,
don’t want to make men who only want to be last night’s lovers
responsible for the semen they lay.

just flat out don’t want to pay for shit,
but want to control the woman who’s having it.
acting outraged at abortion.
well I’m outraged
that they want us to believe
that they believe
that women deserve better.

the Vatican won’t prosecute pedophile priests,
but I decide I’m not ready for motherhood
and it’s condemnation for me?
these are the same people who won’t support
national condom distribution to prevent teenage pregnancy.
but women deserve better.

women deserve better
than back-alley surgeries
that leave our wombs barren and empty.
deserve better
than organizations bearing the name
of land-stealing racist rapists,
funding million dollar campaigns on subway trains,
with no money to give these women,
while balding middle-aged white men
tell us what to do with our bodies,
while they wage wars and kill other people’s babies.

so maybe women deserve better
than propaganda and lies
to get into office;
propaganda and lies
to get into panties,
to get out of court,
to get out of paying child support.

Get the fuck out of our decisions,
And give us back our voice.
Women do deserve better,
Women deserve choice.

"Just in my lifetime, we have invaded: Vietnam, Cambodia, The Dominican Republic, Granada, Panama,..."

Sat, 13 Apr 2013 02:01:17 -0400

“Just in my lifetime, we have invaded: Vietnam, Cambodia, The Dominican Republic, Granada, Panama, Bosnia, Iraq, Afghanistan, and Iraq again. That’s how you know you’re war-mongers, when some countries are coming up twice.”

- Bill Maher (via thesoapboxschtick)

promiseoflight: makes you think, doesn’t it?

Sat, 13 Apr 2013 01:53:44 -0400

promiseoflight:

makes you think, doesn’t it?

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Fri, 12 Apr 2013 19:33:59 -0400

"Jews went into Auschwitz and came out as Jews. Africans went into the ships and came out as Blacks...."

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 19:26:04 -0400

“Jews went into Auschwitz and came out as Jews. Africans went into the ships and came out as Blacks. The former is a Human holocaust; the latter is a Human and metaphysical holocaust.”

- Frank Wilderson, Red, Black, and White: Cinema and the Structure of US Antagonisms (via tabularasae)

"It would be a mistake to regard the institutionalized pattern of rape during slavery as an..."

Tue, 09 Apr 2013 21:57:40 -0400

“It would be a mistake to regard the institutionalized pattern of rape during slavery as an expression of white men’s sexual urges, otherwise stifled by the specter of white womanhood’s chastity. That would be far too simplistic an explanation. Rape was a weapon of domination, a weapon of repression, whose covert goal was to extinguish slave women’s will to resist, and in the process, to demoralize their men.

These observations on the role of rape during the Vietnam War could also apply to slavery: “In Vietnam, the U.S. Military Command made rape ‘socially acceptable’; in fact, it was unwritten, but clear, policy.” When GIs were encouraged to rape Vietnamese women and girls (and they were sometimes advised to “search” women “with their penises”) a weapon of mass political terrorism was forged.”

- Angela Davis, “Women, Race, & Class” (via socialismartnature)

itsrainaingmen: CJ IS HAVING NONE OF YOUR SHIT TODAY, SIR

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 01:35:49 -0400

itsrainaingmen:

CJ IS HAVING NONE OF YOUR SHIT TODAY, SIR

"Abortion seems to be the only medical procedure that people want to deny you based on how you got in..."

Sat, 06 Apr 2013 22:15:30 -0400

“

Abortion seems to be the only medical procedure that people want to deny you based on how you got in that situation.

Drove drunk, got in an accident and need an organ transplant? No problem.

Messing around with a gun, accidentally shoot yourself in the leg and need surgery? Of course.

Smoke tobacco for most of your life and need treatment for lung cancer? Yep.

Climb a tree, fall out and break your leg? We’ll fix that right up.

Have sex and get pregnant when you don’t want to be? YOU GOT YOURSELF INTO THIS SITUATION AND YOU DESERVE NO MEDICAL HELP OR COMPASSION! THIS IS YOUR FAULT AND YOU WILL DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES!

”

- Worry About Your Own Uterus: (via veruca-assault)

“Worry about your own uterus” wise wise words.

(via triplash)

Hey guys, wanna hear a joke?

Sat, 06 Apr 2013 22:14:55 -0400

rabbleprochoice:

pufflehug:

Men’s Rights Activists!

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

Searching for Knowledge: ikilledhumannature: So Hobbes, Locke, Rosseau and ESPECIALLY FUCKING...

Wed, 03 Apr 2013 01:04:55 -0400

Searching for Knowledge: ikilledhumannature: So Hobbes, Locke, Rosseau and ESPECIALLY FUCKING...:

ikilledhumannature:

So Hobbes, Locke, Rosseau and ESPECIALLY FUCKING Kant were all major racists.

How come the implications of the fathers of social contract theory and modern liberal philosophy essentially believing Natives to be savages and Black people being inferior aren’t really…

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Wed, 03 Apr 2013 00:59:27 -0400

We enter a little coffeehouse with a friend of mine and give...

Thu, 28 Mar 2013 21:06:51 -0400

We enter a little coffeehouse with a friend of mine and give our order. While we’re approaching our table two people come in and they go to the counter:

‘Five coffees, please. Two of them for us and three suspended’ They pay for their order, take the two and leave.

I ask my friend: “What are those ‘suspended’ coffees?”
My friend: “Wait for it and you will see.”

Some more people enter. Two girls ask for one coffee each, pay and go. The next order was for seven coffees and it was made by three lawyers - three for them and four ‘suspended’. While I still wonder what’s the deal with those ‘suspended’ coffees I enjoy the sunny weather and the beautiful view towards the square infront of the café. Suddenly a man dressed in shabby clothes who looks like a beggar comes in throught the door and kindly asks
‘Do you have a suspended coffee ?’

It’s simple - people pay in advance for a coffee meant for someone who can not afford a warm bevarage. The tradition with the suspended coffees started in Naples, but it has spread all over the world and in some places you can order not only a suspended coffee, but also a sandwitch or a whole meal.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have such cafés or even grocery stores in every town where the less fortunate will find hope and support ? If you own a business why don’t you offer it to your clients… I am sure many of them will like it.

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